The Notebook Test
Believing the critical voice and arguing with it both put your worth on trial. There is a third option, and it starts with a notebook.
What Your Inner Critic Is Actually Protecting
Your inner critic is not the problem. The problem is the claim which it has been guarding since childhood…
Episode 035 – The Identity Beneath the Pattern
Your critic returns to the same accusation for years. That consistency is the clue. It is guarding a belief about who you have to be.
The Standard Was Never the Problem
The standard and the punishment arrive together, so you assume they are one thing. Separating them changes rather a lot.
Episode 034 – Raising the Bar Without Punishing Yourself
The standard you hold and the punishment for missing it are two separate things. Here is what happens to your standards when you put the stick down.
The Fear That Kindness Will Make You Soft
You’d never speak to a colleague the way you speak to yourself. So why does it pass as high standards when aimed at yourself?
Episode 032 – The Shame Spiral
One visible mistake and you’re still replaying it three weeks later. Discover why the shame spiral runs, what keeps it going, and what starts to loosen it.
When Your Inner Critic Sounds Like Wisdom
The most dangerous inner critic sounds like strategy, not criticism. Here is the test that unmasks it.
Episode 031 – When The Inner Critic Sounds Like Wisdom
What if your most strategic-sounding decisions are actually being made by fear? Discover how the inner critic disguises itself as your best thinking.
Whose Standards Are You Actually Meeting?
Real judgement responds to the evidence. The inner critic wrote its verdict years ago. How to tell the two apart.
Episode 030 – The Critical Voice
You think the critical voice in your head is yours. Listen more closely. It has favourite phrases, a particular tone, and an accent that isn’t yours.
Relief Is Not Satisfaction
Approval-seeking hides in plain sight, because it looks exactly like excellence. Here’s the one tell that gives it away.
The Narrator and the Person
You are not your inner critic. You’re the one it’s been commentating on. Here’s why that distinction actually matters.