The Fear That Kindness Will Make You Soft

You’d never speak to a colleague the way you speak to yourself. So why does it pass as high standards when aimed at yourself?

Episode 032 – The Shame Spiral

One visible mistake and you’re still replaying it three weeks later. Discover why the shame spiral runs, what keeps it going, and what starts to loosen it.

When Your Inner Critic Sounds Like Wisdom

The most dangerous inner critic sounds like strategy, not criticism. Here is the test that unmasks it.

Episode 031 – When The Inner Critic Sounds Like Wisdom

What if your most strategic-sounding decisions are actually being made by fear? Discover how the inner critic disguises itself as your best thinking.

Whose Standards Are You Actually Meeting?

Real judgement responds to the evidence. The inner critic wrote its verdict years ago. How to tell the two apart.

Episode 030 – The Critical Voice

You think the critical voice in your head is yours. Listen more closely. It has favourite phrases, a particular tone, and an accent that isn’t yours.

Relief Is Not Satisfaction

Approval-seeking hides in plain sight, because it looks exactly like excellence. Here’s the one tell that gives it away.

The Narrator and the Person

You are not your inner critic. You’re the one it’s been commentating on. Here’s why that distinction actually matters.