Letting Go of Control

Are you controlling things, or are you just managing your anxiety? The Hidden Cost of Control Control gives the illusion of safety. It tells you, “If I manage every variable, nothing will go wrong.” For overachievers, this belief runs deep. You likely got where you are by being proactive, responsible, and on top of... Read more

Do you know the difference between owning something and obsessing over it? For what Are You Really Responsible? There’s a fine line between healthy responsibility and unhealthy control. Many overachievers blur that line. You take ownership, which is great. But then you start owning everything: outcomes, timelines, other... Read more

Only 15% of what we worry about ever happens, and most of it isn’t as bad as we imagine. Why We Chase Certainty As overachievers, we love plans, structure, and guarantees. Certainty feels like safety. If we can predict what’s coming, we think we can prevent disaster. The problem? Life is never fully predictable. Even the... Read more

Is your overthinking actually just a form of control? The Subtle Face of Control When we think of control, we often picture obvious behaviours like micromanaging or giving orders. But control can be far more subtle and sneaky. It can hide behind habits we see as responsible, helpful, or even caring. Overthinking, constant... Read more

NASA discovered that the most creative minds are also the most adaptable, rather than the most controlling. Why Rigidity Holds You Back Rigidity can feel safe. Having fixed rules, strict routines, or a narrow plan of action gives the illusion of certainty. But in reality, rigidity blocks creativity, stifles problem-solving,... Read more

Do you delegate, or do you secretly hover? Why Trust Feels Risky For many overachievers, control creeps in when handing work to others. You might think, "It’s faster if I just do it myself", and maybe it is - for the first few times. But after you've given them a chance to learn, it really is faster for them to do it and free... Read more

Do you try to control situations so you don’t have to feel something? The Hidden Link Between Control and Emotion Many overachievers pride themselves on being logical and rational, but often what is really driving the urge to control is emotion. Fear of failure, shame, rejection, or disappointment can feel overwhelming. By... Read more

Studies on elite athletes show those who embrace surrender and flow outperform those who force outcomes. The True Meaning of Surrender Surrender is often misunderstood as weakness or defeat. In reality, surrender is an active and courageous choice. It is the decision to release resistance and stop fighting battles that cannot... Read more