The One Where It All Begins

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Hello, Welcome to the very first episode of a brand new Keith Blakemore-Noble radio show, all designed to help you transform your deepest fears into your greatest strengths. So what is the show about? Why why does it even exist? Who the heck am I? Why am I talking all about this? Whoa! Load of Great questions. Let’s cover those in this in this first episode, eso This all came about because back in two thousand eighteen last year, if you’re listening to this in twenty nineteen or previously, if you’re listening to it later on. But in twenty eighteen, I did launched two to podcast slash radio shows. One was called The Confidence Alchemist radio show on the other was called Winning in Life and work on the reason did. Both of those last year was back then. I was helping people with confidence on. I’ll explain why, why the change shortly and how it’s not, actually because a change, as you might think so. It kind of had that as just a general show about confidence and stuff on winning in life and work Long was because over the years I’ve brought people together. Teo compiles and edited and published three soon to be four books in their winning in Life and Work, Siri’s so Originally that wass to bring in people who had written in the books and just kind of give them a wee podcast episode of the Road. And then we started exploring lots of other areas. Storeys of other people, experiences other people had about winning in life for work anyway was good both good fun each each. Both podcasts were run about one hour long each on so that meant there were two on our podcast a week, which was, ah, fun experiment, a kind of gone out of hand. It was never intended to be that, but I know what we did it. We’re running for run of the nine nine, ten months of that got some really good good episodes from it kind of drew that to a closed toward the end of last year because I kind of rebranded of it. Now, bear with me, this is gonna be a little bit rambling in this very first episode, but this is kind of setting the scene for where we go with everything in all the all the future shows. So I have been helping people with confidence, but because I thought my thought what I was doing with your ankles. But the more I looked at it, the more I looked at the work I was doing with people. The more I looked at my own journey as well, which is where a lot of this stuff came from. I thought it was about confidence. It was actually about overcoming fear because I used to think that I was shy, lacking in confidence. And that’s why I had problems speaking with strangers and all that stuff, usually petrified of speaking with strangers, could not stand the thought of it. Um, I kind of worked out. It wasn’t confidence at all. On they become becomes pretty obvious. Really, it was social phobia. All this stuff was even even in describing the symptoms I had, I was terrified of speaking with strangers. That’s not confidence. That’s that is fear and all the people who come to work with me that it’s all our fears that they have that that they’re looking to work with because the confidence side of things layers on top of it. I still do stuff with people with conference. There’s still a lot to share around. I wanted to bring things back to bet, bring things back to basics, bring things back to the core of this stuff because there’s no point in building layers and layers of conference. If you still got those fundamental fears, photo is in place. So I, um, working with people to help him conquer fears for its what are basically very first client ever had with somebody who had a fear of spiders on right the way through or most of it. Most of the people that I’ve worked with it being the photo of the fears, the phobias that we’ve worked with and then the confidence stuff just kind of. It’s the icing on the cake, but it’s always bean around fear, a phobia, so refocusing everything around that because I think it’s really important. Teo help people to appreciate and understand just how massively their fears and in some cases, phobias are actually holding them back. And so often we think it’s a lack of confidence or lack of experience or lack of opportunities, when in fact it’s it’s fear which is holding us back. So everything now it stood right away back to just looking at the fears and that’s that’s where the idea for this podcast came. Just thinking there’s a lot of stuff here. They will help, will help people. There’s a lot of a lot of other experts out there, a lot of other people who have had their own fear, journeys and their own experiences with particular niche areas of fears. I want to really bring this out into the open on help. People took to find out a lot more about this because perhaps more so than ever these days, there’s so much fear going on in the world, so much fear out there and it really affect us at an individual level. And it also has massive implications for us, for society as a whole, because when you have a society, there’s made up off millions of people who are scared a whole thing’s back. Elsa, a massive potential problems. It doesn’t think much for things that explode in that fear. Tiptoe burst out in all sorts of unpleasant ways. The things that really matter thing. The thing is, fear can be conquered. It could be conquered that we’re gonna look ATT, all manner of these things over the coming coming Episode episode every week. Now these episodes are gonna keep them to write about the twenty five minute mark twenty to thirty minutes. Typically aiming for ran about twenty five minutes. Why, What’s wrong? We’re going for an hour. Yes, we could talk about for an hour or a couple of hours, even some of some of the some of the topics that we’re covering we could talk about for ages. But thing is, I want to keep it accessible. Keep it nice and short and accessible. So you got something you can listen to in your lunch lunch break while you’re trying to work or whatever. Sweet, even a nice bite size chunks once once a week makes it easier for you to process on. We’re going toe basic shevin as far as wide as we can across as many platforms. It’s possible because it’s so. It’s so important to get the message that you can transform your deepest fears into your greatest strength. How do I know this well because I’ve done it myself. That’s where all this started. So let’s let’s let’s do one of those we believe wobbly fade flashbacks to previously growing up. I grew up what a fall or in a farmhouse in the middle of the middle of nowhere was me, my mom and my dad For the first three years, Sister came along when I was aged three. But yeah, the first three years it was just three of us, middle of nowhere on DH. I got really good. It’s learning howto active answer the situation. But it kind of had impact for later on in life. It meant I didn’t develop there. Skills on DSO on Teo bail to socialise. And I really, really built up a fear around strangers for a whole host of reasons which we won’t go into Now we’ll explore some of some of those reasons in future episodes because some of those reasons will be ones which resonate with you or with people who you know. But the whole matter of reasons became, but I describe used to describe its painfully shy, But it was actually scared, scared of strangers, scared of hanging out with people, skated groups of people, a lot of this sort of thing. Now career wise, I went into it. Ta have got a really good career. Became fellow of the British Computer Society, which is the highest level of us mere mortals could could ever reach. The only level higher than that is Bill Gates. I gotta tell you, I did apply for that level, but I was told it was already taken. So what you’re gonna do. But I got a good level there, Buck. Things reached a point where and you will find this in in any career, you reach a point where there’s kind of a limit because career progression stops being about what you know. It’s about who you know as particularly true in T. In fact, ninety. It’s both the poor and the who gets severely limited because it’s a very fast paced industry, lots of lots of rapid developments, which meant having to go to many seminars, keep up with with seminars and so on just to keep up with the latest developments. Seminars were fun, but you’d receive the information about them and I’d be looking reading the agenda. I see those words at the top. Registration on DH coffee like you mean, I’ve got to actually speak with complete strangers. I can’t do that. The number of times I would turn down invitations to come along actors to such events purely because of that, which meant a I was starting to kind of find it harder and harder to keep up with. With new technologies and developments in technology and B, that’s even Patch. Most importantly, it was cutting out the chances to network to get to know other people in the industry to build alliances on this networking and so on. It’s very, very important for a whole host of reasons, but for the company working with and also career wise, because when you limit your your connexions, you reach the point where your career there’s nowhere else to go. In the current company, you know how many connexions with any others? It got very limiting because social life, you can imagine it with having having these fears deep seated fear of strangers, of speaking with strangers, meeting, meeting new people. I kind of made life pretty lonely social life, what social life? A few friends. But it took a long time to make them kind of like hanging out that much because it was too scary. So social and professional life was starting to hate to be the problem because of always, as I know, no social phobia on things, things came to a head one Christmas. This was kind of cheers before Facebook or just face what was about to start taking off. I was in an online social community Web, Web based social community. Andi, can I got to talking with people talking with everyone from keyboard bythe computer. You guys know a few people that way, and that’s pretty cool. And then somebody suggested, Hey, why don’t we all get together in London and meet up for a Christmas party? Hey, my first thought was, I can’t do that, strangers. But then I thought, Hang on. I’ve been chatting with these people, someone for up to a year. How hard can it be? Of course I got there realise it’s exactly how hard it can be because there is a massive difference between chatting with somebody via keyboard on the computer screen and actually being face to face with someone. There is a world of difference got their step almost from the start, felt panic symptoms starting and to cut a long storey short. I ended up locking myself in the toilets and having a full on panic attack. But half an hour after which I managed to calm down enough to get herself out of the cubicle. I fled. I ran. Now anyone who knows me knows I don’t run. That’s just why I don’t run. But I’ve ran on this. The event was held in a Thai old witch in London and I ran and didn’t stop running till I was on the train at Waterloo, which is a couple of miles. Something like that flat. I didn’t even stop Teo get my coat to pick my coat up from the cloakroom because that would have been speaking to someone in the state. I was in no way panic because of the social phobia. And it was horrible. So I fled from the thing. I remember thinking, You know, you cannot go through life like this. What’s life gonna be like if you carry on with your fears? If you carry on allowing those things that you’re scared off to keep scaring you What is your life gonna be like? Just imagine, five years from there. I’m not doing anything about this. What’s life gonna be like? Socks, Right. And that was the point. We all have his point at which bam, we decide you have to do something about this. And that was my point. That’s my point. In life where I knew I had to, I knew I had to change. And you have to do something on giving me. I learned and lp hypnosis so that I could use her stuff to sort myself out now Because as I look back, I realise that when I was growing up when I was younger, early mid teens I was fascinated by by hypnosis and by magic, but particularly hypnosis. And I used to go around pretending I could hypnotise people. I just I used to say one day I’m gonna learn how to have it notice works. I’m gonna become a hypnotist. So we see that had any and in effect, on me later on in life, I learned these tools. Hypnosis, now used in tow, sort myself out beautifully eliminated. All of that social phobia totally gone. I cannot walk into a roomful of strangers on DH Greet Everybody is if a Ziff they’re all friends going on stage, not the problem of being on stage in front of speaking on stage for a whole day in front of a hundred people loved every second of it. All these things I used to used to fill me with terror and dread at to be fine. I totally got over that instantly. Also got over phobias on your head, which were spiders and height Completely got Meg say makes such a difference in life getting rid of those things right? Anyway, that’s how I kind of got into what I was doing. You learned all that stuff, completely conquered all those fears that holding me back suddenly life opens up. Before you got these things, I hold you back, get rid of them. Life opens out right on DH. Coincidentally, at that point, start going to be a board of it being anything for twenty years. So you kind of gonna be bored after a while, right? I was thinking, Yeah, I quite enjoy this NLP and hypnosis stuff. Andi. I helped some people with it and they’ve always got great results. They always keep saying how good I am at it. It is time to make a career change, because is that side of you that goes all? But what if you don’t make any money? What if you lose the house on DH? As if by magic, Very soon after I was started having those that discussion with myself, I got called in to see my boss. My boss was their head of a child. Was that? Oh, this doesn’t look good. Never good when each are involved in a meeting, Right. Sorry to all the a choppy platter. Boss basically said, I’m sorry, but due to the current economic situation, we have to make your position redundant. Here’s a wheelbarrow full of cash. Never come back like, Oh, already. I’ve been with the company for ten, twelve years. I will. I will say they made a generous redundancy offer. Cannot fault for that. They were They were very generous with their offer. Very nice offer. So I was given well, but for cash to never come back. And I was thinking, you know what? If ever I was looking for a signed this’s it on DH, it’s gonna how I got into what I’m doing there right from the start. It’s always been about helping people transform that fears into their strengths. Spiders speaking on stage Yeah, being on camera, stay try overcoming stage. A number of people have helped to conquer stage fright. It’s it’s fantastic. It’s so empowering to be able to help these people to make the changes that they want to make and do. Excuse me. Go shake with your Storey of Ruta. She was a lady I helped a few years back shoes classically trained, seeing a beautiful voice. But she was always terrified of the thought of singing in front of people. She which was a bit of a problem because you wanted to be a performer, an actress and a singer. But she’s terrified, thought of performing in front of people we met through through mutual mutual contact on through possess bizarre circumstances. We actually ended up doing this at the back of Parliament square. You too bizarre mix up in places where we’re going to meet anyway a storey for another time. So a quiet spot it back to Parliament Square. We worked away for a session helped her get over on conquer her fears about performing in front of people and at the end of that session said, You’re so how do you feel now about singing in front of people? She said, “Yeah, Yeah, I could do that.” I said, “All right, go and stand up, sing in front of all these people here, just stand up and sing” And she did. She stood up in Parliament Square and sang Unaccompanied and impromptu a song in front of Complete Strangers Tourists on all sorts And she really enjoyed doing it. And this was somebody who was terrified of the thought of speaking of singing in front of strangers just an hour earlier. So she’s now gone. She she’s she is an actress and a performer off some success. She is building a building emotional career for herself there because she was able to transform this this deepest fear. And it was her deepest ria. She’s transformed like strength, as that’s what I do, how I help campers. I mean, since two thousand ten started doing this in two thousand, and since two thousand ten, I’ve helped over five thousand people transformed their lives. This stuff, this stuff works on. That’s the kind of things we’re gonna be looking at throughout this thing. Siri’s Some of the episode is gonna be me. Yea, lucky you is gonna be just you and me. How we’re going to be exploring particular topics now what? We’re going to look at things like, What is fear? Well, look at what phobias are gonna look about where we get these things from. We’re gonna look about how the mind works to even developed these things. We’re going to look at how we know we can change these behaviours and eliminate these fears. We’re going to take a look at all manner of other other things related to this. We’re gonna look at it. Yeah, we’re gonna branch off in different times in tow. The other related topics. Loads of these lined up. It’s gonna be great fun. So it’s got about half of those episodes are gonna be just you and me. The other half, I’m bringing various guests. I got a whole bunch of guests lined up already. Some really, really interesting. Once I got a roll Marine or an ex Royal Marine who’s sharing their experiences of fear. No, you think of someone in the Marines. You think all that? They’re gonna be fearless, right? Get be surprised. Fears Cropper, With so many different ways. Not in the ways that you would be expecting that, I have to say, Very interesting. Ever such a record. We’re gonna be airing that in a few weeks time. That’s going to look forward to. I’ve got somebody. Excuse me. I’m sorry about this. I’m just getting over a cold, which is not very nice, but hey, there we go. I got somebody who works in the field of mental health, and they’re gonna be sharing with us how fear of mental health go hand in hand. They got some really interesting tips to help in both sides of things. Um, and speaking with with all sorts of sports performers, I’ve got physical trainers I’ve got, I’ve got I’ve got I’ve got somebody who’s written storeys for a few of the big, big, big Siri’s out there. We’re going to be exploring some interesting topic around fear. There. I got all sorts of easy, So that’s what we’re going to be looking at that that’s what this show is all about. It’s about helping you transform your deepest fears into greater strength is about helping you understand what fears are is about exploring how other people have overcome fears, the sorts of things that they go through to give you insight and give you hope on DH certainty that it is always possible to conquer fear. Whatever fear you’ve got, it is possible to get through it. Some people, they could do it themselves. Some people, they get help from a professional who helps him to conquer. Those were either way, you could conquer fears. You can overcome these fears, and that’s what we’re gonna be looking at. That’s pretty much it for this episode. Going on. Stop waffling about all sources Say that I hope you find this useful. We’re going to be our were on video and audio, so you’ll find us on iTunes. Spotify, Google Play your finest on DuggyStone Radio – Freakin global DuggyStone radio. There’s having us on there every Friday at noon together. Don’t we still radio fantastic. We’re also going to be a video on YouTube are going to our Facebook on periscope, all manner of places. Plus you’ll always find us on our very own website. KeithBlakemroeNoble.com/Show. Always pop there. You’ll find information about the show. You’ll find the latest episodes. You’ll always be ableto seeyou here the latest episode, and you’ll also find all the previous episodes that we’ve done as well. They’ll be show notes that we bios off my guests that we all their contact details. You have the audio and video there. Sometimes I’ll be a little extra bonus bits of information. Keep checking it wherever you find these. Subscribe Levy’s comments. I mean finding us on YouTube or on iTunes or whatever. Subscribe. Hit that subscribe button on DH. Leave a comment. Leave rate us because the more people rate, the more people will be able to find this on the more lives in turn, we can help to improve. That’s it for this episode. Thank you so much for joining me. I hope you find it useful. Drop me a comment. Let me know what you think. If you’ve got any thoughts for things you like covered in future episodes. Absolutely. Get in touch. Let me know. I would love to know what you would you would like if you know someone who’d make a good cast. Good guest. I get absolutely getting touch. Let me know. Let’s get them on. I’ve got a number of guests lined up a number of guests that I have in mind by always interesting here who you would like to hear from. So that’s it. My name’s Keith Blakemore Noble. I’m your case Number one Fear strategist. I help people like you transform your deepest fears into your greatest strength. Thank you very much. I will catch you again in the next episode

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Since 2010 Keith has helped over 5,000 people to transform their lives.

Now he brings the distillation of his experience into a weekly show designed to help you to transform your deepest fears into your greatest strengths.

Some episodes feature Keith running solo, discussing topics related to fear, phobia, mindset, and taking an interesting look into where it all comes from and what we can do about it.

In other episodes, Keith invites a special guest to join him and to discuss their experiences in overcoming their own fears, so that we can gain some insight into how we might do the same, or even to explore the more esoteric areas around fear – sometimes in some unexpected yet very interesting ways!

Presented in both audio and in video, across multiple platforms, so that the show can meet those who need it where they are.