About This Episode
Imagine being trapped in an abusive relationship. Terrified of remaining in it. Yet at the same time, terrified of the thought of leaving it. The fear of the unknown, of having to start again, of having to rebuild your life.
That was the position in which Deborah found herself.
In this frank and open episode, Deborah discusses what it was like, the fears she faced, and the shame that is associated with those fears.
We discuss how that fear can paralyse us to do nothing and just accept that this is what we deserve, and how that fear builds on low self-esteem, lack of confidence and little self-belief to keep us living in a dark place.
And most importantly, Deborah talks about how overcoming those fears can lead you to creating your blockbuster life and living life on your terms. How by overcoming the fear it is possible to live again, love again and start over.
Join us as together we discover –
- That you don’t have to stay stuck in the relationship through fear.
- That perpetrators of psychological abuse use fear to keep you there.
- How to start over
- That the fear you’re currently in is only temporary.
About My Guest
I was the owner and Managing Director of a UK industry-leading business, recognised by Insider magazine as one of South Wales’ “Top 20 Entrepreneurs to Watch”. I had a happy marriage and a new born son. We lived in a lovely home in a sought after area and life was good.
At least, it was good until the business became insolvent, my marriage collapsed, I lost custody of my son, became personally bankrupt and realised I was stuck in a cycle of abusive relationships and self-sabotage behaviour!
Sound familiar?
I went through a number of years of hell whilst trying to work out what had happened and how on earth to get out the mess I was in and start living again.
That’s when my mantra ‘Whatever It Takes’ came to the fore and it’s how I created my Lights, Camera, Action and Step Into YOUR Spotlight programmes.
Knowing that I wanted to change and needed to change, I decided to do something about it.
I rewrote my script which started with writing my books: Whatever it Takes: Living with, Leaving and Surviving Psychological Abuse and Create YOUR Blockbuster Life: How to Step out of the Wings into YOUR Spotlight
My books and coaching programmes share my story and the steps I took to change my life.
In following these steps and deciding to rewrite my script to step out of the wings into MY spotlight and create my own Blockbuster Life I changed the four main areas of my life; I went from a place of being bankrupt with no income to having a savings plan and clearing my debts.
Battles with my weight and fitness became a thing of the past and I developed a healthy relationship with food, alcohol and exercise to become fitter and healthier than I’ve ever been.
After years of lurching from one abusive relationship to another, I met the love of my life and entered a truly equal, healthy relationship which just gets better and better.
From being unemployed and unemployable I got a job at the EXACT salary I was hoping for and with the holidays and pension I wanted. I also realised a lifelong ambition of becoming a professional actor at the age of 42 and chose to undertake a BSc (hons) Psychology & Counselling with the Open University.
I no longer live my life hiding in the wings, afraid of the spotlight. I’ve claimed my rightful place, in MY spotlight living MY Blockbuster Life.
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